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The “Uncomfortable” questions asked from our children and how to deal with them

Sooner or later every child comes to the period of exploring the world and from there having more and more questions running in its head. In some cases we have to admit that often some questions catche us by surprise and we have no clue how to deal with them. Among all the different variety of questions there is one particular type of questions that not just surprises us but sometimes can bring us to panic or not knowing how to react.

These are the so-called “difficult questions” or “uncomfortable questions” – in fact they are normal part of our life, but somehow we as adults have turned them into taboo. Usually, parents are introduced to this “phenomenon” between the third and fifth year of their child – a period full of many changes and emotions.
Most often the embarrassing questions are related to topics such as sex, religion, appearance, relationships and public use unacceptable words. Not all parents are prepared for this moment and it is possible to condemn certain questions like “forbidden” or even to frustrate the child that asks them. But what we must remember is that in this young age, the parents are the only source of information about the child and therefore we should approach with care and love our children and their need to know certain things, no matter what we are asked.

Here we have prepared several universal tips that will help you find a decent answer to your children’s difficult questions to encourage the natural curiosity of the child and again to justify their confidence.
1 Do not react rashly
When the child asks a delicate question, do not shoot the first possible thought that came to your head, in order to quickly exit an embarrassing situation.Pay the needed attention to the issue and calmly consider what would be the most appropriate response. Remember also that people are much more tolerant of rude / inappropriate questions from children than you think.

2 Do not make the child to fill guilty for asking a question
Asking questions is a completely natural stage of children development, more curiosity is a sign of intelligence. Do not make your child feel guilty for having in their head thousands fo questions running and nobody that can not answer. To them you are just the person who knows everything and the only one it has implicitly trust – do not give up!

3 Do not forbid
Do not forbid the child to ask for certain things, but show and teach them of a sense of tact and consideration of the circumstances. This is a quality that will be useful throughout its entire life. The prohibitions will ensure you comfort, but not the comfort of the child.

4 Consider your answers to the child’s age and individual development
Answers to difficult questions are different and at different stages of development and with different children. They should be designed and presented in an easy to assimilate manner for the children. Some parents prefer to explain everything seriously, some form of game, still others rely on drawings – what is the best approach for your child you will find yourself. One thing is certain however – the answer should be there.

5.Present good role model
Consider carefully the words and actions to the children because they are your so called mirror. Do not expect your child to know how “decent” to behave – show it through your words and actions.
Most parents have long time forgotten what it means to be a child, but raising such requires of us more or less to put ourselves in its shoes and see the world through its eyes. Awkward questions and their answers are an important part of growing the child and turning it into a whole person, so you have to approach them responsibly.

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